With everything gone wrong in the world today, I like to believe there's a lot more good than bad. In fact, I'm sticking with the good. And since I'm going with good, let's talk love and relationships.

Being "a couple" really is a good thing—when you find the right person to share your life with. I happen to be a relationship girl myself—what can I say—I'm a sucker for it; I simply haven't met the right person yet. But being single doesn't mean I haven't experienced it.

I'm no expert but I do play a good one on the blog. If you keep up with my writing, by now you know my dating seesaw; I've seen it all! So it got me thinking about things—baggage, as they call it—that can hurt a relationship.

Reality is, all relationships come with baggage—as bad as that sounds, it's really not a bad word. You have the acceptable baggage and the non-acceptable. Here are the top 3 things I say you—women & men— should never, ever, carry into a new relationship (a.k.a. the non-acceptable):


Debt—whether it be old debt or bad credit—that you, and you alone, accumulated throughout the years should be reconciled before heading into a new relationship. It is never the responsibility of your new love interest to help carry, and often times help pay, your past, financial burdens. The most irresponsible thing you could ever do to another person is place them in this position.


If you're old enough to have a mortgage in your name, you should be working. In fact, you should be more than employed, you should be stable and in a good financial position. Nothing is more valuable to a new relationship than knowing 'stability' plays a major role in the person you're investing time with.


This may sound a bit insensitive but trust me, I assure you, that is not my intent. REAL TALK! If you take care of your health, WORKOUT, stay fit, eat healthy, keep your body clean, stay away from drugs and smoking, (if need be) practice minimal drinking, exercise, take care of your cholesterol, keep your heart pumping, get yearly physical exams, do every single thing in your power to be as healthy as you can be, then, and only then, should you go into a new relationship.

Don't make excuses... It is not someone else's responsibility to be your caretaker for illnesses you brought on yourself, throughout the years. As we get older, this becomes more difficult. Don't stray away from doing the right thing simply because you're getting older. Love can find you at any time, at any place, at any age. Stay clean, stay healthy, stay ready—for when you least expect it, love comes knocking.