Parents you cannot raise overly-pampered, undisciplined, disrespectful children [and expect] respect in return. Nor can you blame society for the spoiled-rotten adults you create.
In Ephesians 6:1-2 God specifically says, "Children obey your parents; for this is right. Honor your father and mother." No matter what, a child should always obey their mother and father. But parents a child isn't born disobedient, a child is taught disobedience. So the responsibility falls on you to make this happen.
It is ok to tell your children NO.
It is ok to teach your children ethics and manners.
It is ok if your children get upset with you for making rules.
It is ok if your kids don't have the latest handbags, shoes, clothes.
It is ok to teach your children chores.
It is ok to not give in to your children's demands and pressures.
It is ok if everyone else is doing it and your children are not.
It is ok.
As a parent, your first obligation is to be a parent [before] you are a friend.
In today's world, the "best bud syndrome" between parents and kids is more evident than ever. Some parents feel that a best friend bond, with their child, is the solution to their problems.
It's not! And while I'm not nit-picking the idea, I am saying: there's a time and place for everything.
Your primary goal, when your kids are young, is parenting first. This establishes parental guidelines. It teaches children about rules and obedience. And it sets the foundation of who is in charge.
Listen, I'm not a trained professional handing out parenting advice for a living. What I am is a mother of two grown sons who made mistakes along the way, but through the process, I also learned, just as much. And sometimes, it's life's experiences that shed more light and have more meaning, than those who study the cause.
Raising kids isn't a buddy-buddy-BFF-best-friend lifestyle. You are not their "BFF" that position is already filled by someone their own age.
Obedience begins with you; a strong-willed parent ready to teach, ready to educate, ready to nurture their children in the right direction.
If you do your part when your children are younger. They will grow up to do their part as they get older. And it is then [after they become adults] that the bond of a "best friend" is formed. It is then that the foundation you applied to their childhood pays off.
I can assure you, one of the greatest feelings in the world is watching your children, raise their children with love and admiration, respect and obedience.