Yaya

EITHER YOU LIKE HER, OR YOU DON'T

Yaya

Isn't it funny?

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We spend our 20's acting as if we know everything. Because that's what twenty year olds do, they know it all. We jump into our 30's, somewhat mature, yet not quite there, but we quickly realize—we don't—we don't know it all! Then we close our eyes and our 40's appear. We look back and wonder—at least I know I do—what were we thinking? 

And as much as I'd like to categorize a lot of things I did in my earlier years, as regrets, I won't. I can't! My past—mistakes and all—are part of what made me the woman I am today. And I love her! I humbly do. 

And if you're here on my site, reading this post, I think it's safe to assume you like me too, maybe not love, but like.

Right?

Yeah!

We'll go with like.

If you're here for other reasons, well, you're here.

So thank you for thinking my life is interesting enough to follow and read along. 

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One of my favorite quotes—not sure who wrote it—completely describes who I am:

"I used to walk into a room full of people and wonder if they liked me. Now I look around and wonder if I like them."

True. That's who I am NOW.

"Gained confidence!" I call it.  And it's alluring.

When a beautiful woman walks into a room, I may glance at her for a minute, who wouldn't if she's a beautiful woman? But I'm not phased and I soon return back to what I was doing. 

When a confident woman walks into a room, I'm instantly intrigued. 

A confident woman doesn't have to say a word. She doesn't have to cuss to gain attention. Or lose her dignity to the world by showing off half-naked photos of herself—just so men can lust over her insecurities.

Her elegance and poise; how she carries herself says it all. She's not your typical hair and makeup girlie-girl; the type you see all over Instagram. Her style, her look, her behavior is mysterious and unique. She stands out because she's different. So different—that something in you has a desire to know more about her.

She doesn't care what anyone thinks because she's confident. Cliché, maybe, but it's the God honest truth. It's not a snobby or pretentious attitude. Take my word—it's real. And...

EITHER YOU LIKE HER, OR YOU DON'T

So the next time you walk into a room. Don't wonder if they like you. Make an entrance. Look around. Politely smile—yes, always be polite.

But remember...

People have a funny way of showing their true colors. They smile to your face, but snicker behind your back. They watch and follow you around in private but never, publicly, support what you do. So ask yourself: "Do I like them?" Yes... that is the question. 

As Oscar de la Renta once said: "Walk like you have 3 men walking behind you."

...then gracefully move on.

If you base your confidence on worldly people and what they think, you'll be very disappointed. 

People are mean.

Always hold your head up and love yourself anyway.