I won’t bore you with thoughts about what, I think, women in their 40’s should or shouldn’t wear or do. I mean, after all, who am I to tell people anything. If you keep up with my journal, by now you know my thoughts anyway; so it’s not a secret. However, there are a few things older women should stay away from. And being that I, too, am in my forty’s—well—this applies to me as well.
(Let me share a few of my picks on what NOT to wear AND what to do when you find yourself in a pickle...)
Problem: FLANNEL SHIRT AROUND THE WAISTLINE
A flannel around the waist is one of the cutest trends right now. It really is! Unfortunately for me and you, if your not a teenager or in your twenties, it's really not a look you should be wearing.
Solution: ADD A PENCIL SKIRT TO IT
Flannel shirts are great—for all ages—but here’s how it’s done for you, if you're in your 30's and 40's.
Problem: LEATHER PANTS
Unless you’re a super-famous 47 year old rock star like Gwen Stefani or Jennifer Lopez—no. The average woman isn’t living in front of a camera. We’re at church and work, grocery shopping, soccer practice and yes, maybe we do the occasionally happy hour with girlfriends but even then, it's a NO.
Solution: LEATHER SKIRT
Nobody said you can't wear leather, simply replace your pants with a beautiful skirt. Your objective is to pull it off without looking desperate.
Problem: DENIM OVERALLS
I’ll be the first to admit, these little cuties are super fun to wear—but—I think they should come with some type of disclaimer that reads: Do not wear after 30.
Solution: DENIM DRESS
Remember your objective is to look like you know what you’re doing, even when you don't.
NO! And just in case you didn’t understand, let me say it again… NO!
Denim shorts will be a fashion icon for the rest of our lives. They are “that” piece of clothing that creep into every generation, and that’s a good thing. However, that doesn’t mean you should creep with it.
Solution: DENIM SKIRT
I’m talking about those adorable knee length denim skirts that are super hot right now and quite honestly, were super chic back in the 80’s too.
Problem: HAIR BRAIDS
The french braid has been around for a very, very long time.
My grandmother, in particular, used to french braid my hair—when I was in high school. Key words here: high school.
The braided look is a super cute trend and I love how it on teenage girls; even girls in their 20’s can pull it off, but that’s where it belongs.
Thirty year olds may disagree with me on this one—and as pretty as it looks—you’re not little girls anymore. I don't care what Kim Kardashian is doing, if you are passed the age of 30; stop looking desperate.
Solution: HAIR TWIST
What I recommend is the hair twist. Which is pretty much a "wiser" french braid.
It’s the grown up version of the braid. And to make it even sexier, the looser and messier the twist, the more sophisticated-chic you look.
Being in your 40’s doesn’t mean you shrivel up and die.
Appearing beautiful and trendy comes with the package, at any age; we simply have to be more cautious with our choices.
PROBLEM: COWBOY BOOTS WITH baby doll DRESSES
Shame on you ladies who do this. Have you forgotten you’re in your 40’s? I don’t even think 30 year old women should be attempting this. You are not in college anymore! While short dresses are ok for summer and cowboy boots may be worn by many… nothing wrong with that. BUT together, it’s a teenage “wannabe” nightmare for an older woman.
Solution: THE MAXI
Instead keep the dress; add a few inches and replace the cowboy boots with cute wedges or flip flops. Look fun but do it right.
I don’t care if you are the most physically fit 40-something hottie in the world, put that 6-pack away. Unless you’re at the gym or the beach—which is acceptable—mid riff tops should never be a part of a 40 year olds OOTD.
There is no solution—or exception for the mid-riff. After the age of 35ish; you should not be mid-riffing anything.
Staying sexy and fun and young in your 40’s, without trying to look like your 29, makes you a winner. In our 40’s, even parts of our 30's, there is no excuse for bad fashion. And while we all still want that chic-stylish feel—wisdom has arrived—use it. It's not rocket science ladies, IT'S CLASSY STYLE.