Yaya

THEY DON'T SERVE COCKTAILS AT PITY PARTIES

Yaya
THEY DON'T SERVE COCKTAILS AT PITY PARTIES

Have you ever—you know—pitied yourself to the point of [what seems like] no return? Well, kick off your shoes, have a seat, let me tell you a little bit of what happens to those who do.

The victim stance is a powerful one.

Rather than pitying yourself when someone is cruel to you, or when life isn't nice, learn to stand up. Refuse to allow this world to victimize you. You are not a victim—don't play its game.

The victim is always morally right—neither responsible, nor accountable—and forever entitled to sympathy. Sympathy leads to emptiness. And what a sad life that is.

Listen, you can be pitiful or you can be powerful but you cannot be both. 

No one owes you anything. Your success and your failures are on you.

Quit complaining about what someone didn't do for you, or did to you.

Quit waiting for handouts. Quit desiring hugs of sorrow and consoling kisses.

Stop playing victim!

Stop wanting people to carry you when you should be walking. You cripple yourself when you victimize your behavior.

Life isn't an Instagram profile filled with little-squared photos. Life is real!

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So pop the cork with a stand-up attitude. Serve yourself a glass of red, maybe some champagne, a little pink drink and a floating umbrella. Whatever it takes to celebrate the power within.

Be a fighter!

Because I'm here to tell you, a good cocktail isn't served at pity parties. In the real world, you either sink or swim; and feeling sorry for yourself is a first-class ticket to a sinking ship.